tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2521256816974606164.post2037136064728217115..comments2024-02-21T23:33:41.359-07:00Comments on Only a little Sugar-Coated: Abusive Relationshipsjenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14191688082941672114noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2521256816974606164.post-59036281389166358492011-08-25T05:45:07.354-06:002011-08-25T05:45:07.354-06:00Yeah Jen it's a fight.Yeah Jen it's a fight.radbellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16571313213297907561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2521256816974606164.post-25518252048665092562011-08-24T09:23:02.267-06:002011-08-24T09:23:02.267-06:00Angie - YOU are not the problem. Even though all y...Angie - YOU are not the problem. Even though all your life you have been taught the opposite - it just isn't true.<br /><br />Radbell - Welcome to my blog! I'm glad that you can see you aren't the problem. It seems to be a very crazyhard thing to figure out.jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14191688082941672114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2521256816974606164.post-22790176586787951122011-08-24T05:01:33.070-06:002011-08-24T05:01:33.070-06:00I still feel this after leaving the church in 2006...I still feel this after leaving the church in 2006. I thought I was alone. I know they are the problem and not me.radbellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16571313213297907561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2521256816974606164.post-76717770973178936772011-04-06T17:53:03.614-06:002011-04-06T17:53:03.614-06:00YOU are not the problem...
I would have given any...YOU are not the problem...<br /><br />I would have given anything at one point in my life to have someone say that to me just once.<br /><br />It's so hard to believe the opposite of what I always have...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2521256816974606164.post-91456289488282375582011-03-29T10:53:56.252-06:002011-03-29T10:53:56.252-06:00There is nothing wrong with you. You are special. ...There is nothing wrong with you. You are special. An individual who deserves happiness and not to be told you are bad or sinful or need to repent.Gwylymhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08309784895613205011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2521256816974606164.post-71804070677413966562011-03-29T10:21:03.987-06:002011-03-29T10:21:03.987-06:00Hypatia - Loved your post!
And you are SO right, ...Hypatia - Loved your post! <br />And you are SO right, that "HAVE to" feeling is a very codependent way of thinking. It is a sign to me that I'm not in a good place.<br /><br />Kaylanamars - still trying to sort this one out. Even now, I find myself wanting to defend the church. "No. Its me. Its my problem. I'm crazy. I'm broken. I'm confused."<br />For now, I&jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14191688082941672114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2521256816974606164.post-16536307225303594862011-03-29T09:50:49.948-06:002011-03-29T09:50:49.948-06:00Jen- Awesome post. You do get right at the heart o...Jen- Awesome post. You do get right at the heart of the abusive nature of the church. YOU are NOT the problem, they are.Kaylanamarshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01301354843102083215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2521256816974606164.post-472259784818608072011-03-28T23:23:13.113-06:002011-03-28T23:23:13.113-06:00Jen- What a fabulous post. You hit the nail on the...Jen- What a fabulous post. You hit the nail on the head. I wrote something similar here: http://seekingdesideratum.blogspot.com/2009/12/religion-and-codependency.html<br /><br />"With conference coming, that feeling intensifies. I HAVE to listen."<br /><br />Also, this REALLY describes someone who has been emotionally abused, and even though they know that what they hear isn't goingHypatiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00058304784815468151noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2521256816974606164.post-39245219332977062002011-03-28T22:51:27.680-06:002011-03-28T22:51:27.680-06:00Kiley - Its a lesson that goes so contrary to the ...Kiley - Its a lesson that goes so contrary to the way I've always believed... I think it goes right along with, "I am enough." Still hard for me to rasp.<br /><br />TGD - I love you! Thanks for your help these past few months. You're amazing!jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14191688082941672114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2521256816974606164.post-44083513494711528692011-03-28T19:20:39.237-06:002011-03-28T19:20:39.237-06:00"In my opinion, a relationship becomes abusiv..."In my opinion, a relationship becomes abusive when one person tells someone else they are not good enough. They need to change. And at the same time, won't let that person leave the relationship." <br /><br />That sounds like A CULT to me.<br /><br />You are just so amazing how you've gotten through all this! I left the church for the same reasons. It was an abusive TGDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01787370282987477869noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2521256816974606164.post-61596658185205195892011-03-28T19:00:28.267-06:002011-03-28T19:00:28.267-06:00"You are not the problem." This was a re..."You are not the problem." This was a really hard lesson to learn. Really, I am still learning that one. <br /><br />Thank you for your post.Kileyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14598910475787952773noreply@blogger.com