tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2521256816974606164.post6834458938117518249..comments2024-02-21T23:33:41.359-07:00Comments on Only a little Sugar-Coated: Heavenly Codependencyjenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14191688082941672114noreply@blogger.comBlogger27125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2521256816974606164.post-6846257034327608432012-12-13T08:54:37.458-07:002012-12-13T08:54:37.458-07:00Very well written! I love that you are very matte...Very well written! I love that you are very matter of fact in your articles as to not slant the readers opinion of your experiences. You lay down the facts and allow the reader to interpret your journey on their own. Being that my scripture reading has been my escape and saved my life from my pain and struggles, I see the circumstances a little differently than they way you interpreted them. Debbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11203142545716845885noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2521256816974606164.post-4899031638355325092012-07-07T23:40:25.306-06:002012-07-07T23:40:25.306-06:00My sister is trying to convince me to get a job he...My sister is trying to convince me to get a job here... and finish college. It will take a while to see if anything pans out. No worries either way. I hope you are having a blast. If you need to contact me more directly follow my profile through SDL.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12543996058253240923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2521256816974606164.post-81955807657733656702012-07-06T23:32:56.504-06:002012-07-06T23:32:56.504-06:00Bummer! I'm in Yellowstone until Friday (July ...Bummer! I'm in Yellowstone until Friday (July 13th). How long are you in Utah for?jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14191688082941672114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2521256816974606164.post-65022929125225976982012-07-04T23:22:24.214-06:002012-07-04T23:22:24.214-06:00I am in Utah! If you want to hang out before I fin...I am in Utah! If you want to hang out before I finish visiting my sister let me know.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12543996058253240923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2521256816974606164.post-54142759387214819832012-06-26T20:45:55.320-06:002012-06-26T20:45:55.320-06:00Thank you! I've come a long way in the past fe...Thank you! I've come a long way in the past few years, and it sure feels good. I REALLY appreciate comments, so thanks again!<br /><br />I have a hard time keeping up with the comments on SDL. But I'll watch for you now. :)jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14191688082941672114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2521256816974606164.post-64399881267394798792012-06-25T18:34:34.964-06:002012-06-25T18:34:34.964-06:00Hi. I followed you through SDL, then started readi...Hi. I followed you through SDL, then started reading... I didnt know which post to respond to. I guess any response to any of them is better than no response to all of them. As an ex-Mormon, I understand where you are coming from. I am not a woman, but I did have to watch my mother go through hell because of the church. It changed me. It helped shape who I am today. I wish you the best, and if Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12543996058253240923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2521256816974606164.post-44936599730468166112012-04-14T18:47:12.463-06:002012-04-14T18:47:12.463-06:00:) I'm pretty sure we'd be good friends in...:) I'm pretty sure we'd be good friends in real life. Thank you for inspiring me to finally write about it... It had been bouncing around in my head for a long time before I read your post... and then BAM! it wanted out of my head.jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14191688082941672114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2521256816974606164.post-45218525448183029562012-04-14T18:46:07.141-06:002012-04-14T18:46:07.141-06:00Thank you! I wish I could read Arabic, so I could ...Thank you! I wish I could read Arabic, so I could read some of your blog. :)jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14191688082941672114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2521256816974606164.post-28163545199813096442012-04-14T18:45:32.560-06:002012-04-14T18:45:32.560-06:00Thank you. And agreed. No reason for abuse.
It fee...Thank you. And agreed. No reason for abuse.<br />It feels good to be learning how to take care of myself.jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14191688082941672114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2521256816974606164.post-64718424612851356192012-04-14T18:43:59.727-06:002012-04-14T18:43:59.727-06:00Yay! You can comment again. :)
I kind of go crazy ...Yay! You can comment again. :)<br />I kind of go crazy inside my head when I hear the idea "submit, and you'll be safe," because it is SO the opposite... If you have a man that isn't abusive, you won't get hurt even if you're submissive, but if you have a man that IS abusive, submission can mean death.jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14191688082941672114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2521256816974606164.post-16615703308732306112012-04-13T09:49:09.427-06:002012-04-13T09:49:09.427-06:00Jen, I can't believe it took me this long to d...Jen, I can't believe it took me this long to discover this post! Very well said.... I'm sorry that you have had to endure so much crap. But thanks for sharing pieces of your journey. I've been married to my husband for 23 years, and while it hasn't been perfect by any definition, he is able to give me room to explore all the sides of me that the church discourages, and I hope he myrtlejoyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11485812372706014092noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2521256816974606164.post-70331010508610605892012-03-21T22:10:05.734-06:002012-03-21T22:10:05.734-06:00Well Jen, I'm awfully happy you found my littl...Well Jen, I'm awfully happy you found my little blog so that I could in turn find yours.<br /><br />You and I are of different faiths but there is one thing I know to be true....each person on this Earth is here for a purpose and of value. This to me means that there is never a reason for one to be abused, or overlooked.<br /><br />PERIOD<br /><br />No matter the faith, no matter the reason.<Sober Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17318097778780146026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2521256816974606164.post-62779822454197125862012-03-21T20:26:56.130-06:002012-03-21T20:26:56.130-06:00Wow. Yes. What you said. Thank-you for putting ...Wow. Yes. What you said. Thank-you for putting those words. Of course, not being Mormon, we didn't even have a heavenly mother and to put feminine adjectives or personas onto god was sacrilegious in our patriarchal world. But we were told the same things: woman, submit and if you submit enough then you will be safe. <br />Lies lies lies.<br />We are working towards a healthy marriage butprairie nymphhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16068600879560524239noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2521256816974606164.post-88487716161639388842012-03-16T14:01:34.787-06:002012-03-16T14:01:34.787-06:00I think some of my life experiences are extreme, b...I think some of my life experiences are extreme, but my experiences are a result of the basic teachings... I believed what was sad. I internalized it. As one friend put it, "We grew up not realizing our value, then marry men that confirm we are only there to serve them. Knowlege is key, knowing you are wonderful means that you never have to put up with it again!"jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14191688082941672114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2521256816974606164.post-52259087759215336892012-03-16T13:59:49.361-06:002012-03-16T13:59:49.361-06:00I agree that a healthy marriage is when both partn...I agree that a healthy marriage is when both partners respect the others' independence. Its hard though... since so many people get married long before they know themselves... and they don't even realize all of the expectations they have of what marriage is supposed to be. <br /><br />The most healthy examples I have seen are: a gay couple. Those that got married later in life. And those jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14191688082941672114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2521256816974606164.post-74259879740400052202012-03-16T13:55:54.091-06:002012-03-16T13:55:54.091-06:00Tieranny, Thank you! I love what you've writte...Tieranny, Thank you! I love what you've written so far. For my sake, I hope you keep writing.jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14191688082941672114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2521256816974606164.post-35707187980352174072012-03-15T11:08:37.883-06:002012-03-15T11:08:37.883-06:00Wow, jen, just wow. I haven't gone through nea...Wow, jen, just wow. I haven't gone through nearly what you have but I completely relate to that insidious idea the church feeds us that we, as women, are not as good. Beautifully put.Just Zenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03852070305659271000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2521256816974606164.post-21507205557766668602012-03-15T08:51:12.930-06:002012-03-15T08:51:12.930-06:00I am impressed with your ability to express your t...I am impressed with your ability to express your thoughts and feelings so clearly. I started a blog with the idea that I would also express my thoughts and feelings but didn't get very far. I think we have some similar views and I look forward to following your journey. I left the church, my husband and my mom about 10 years ago and have been on an exciting self discovery journey ever since. Tierannyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09630760122364746652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2521256816974606164.post-70330902059195040232012-03-14T11:16:17.239-06:002012-03-14T11:16:17.239-06:00I've been thinking about what exactly makes a ...I've been thinking about what exactly makes a good marriage over the past few months and I'm wondering a lot about this codependency idea you have going. <br /><br />I think a good marriage is when both partners respect the others independence yet they can still work together however I do think most marriages are codependent though. Perhaps the best marriages are those where the couple Apron Appealhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05127409965304126490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2521256816974606164.post-64327146378782390362012-03-14T09:50:49.643-06:002012-03-14T09:50:49.643-06:00(((hugs))) back at you.(((hugs))) back at you.jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14191688082941672114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2521256816974606164.post-26624569228448013672012-03-14T09:50:29.772-06:002012-03-14T09:50:29.772-06:00It's funny. Once I started sharing all of the ...It's funny. Once I started sharing all of the articles and quotes and stuff I'd found with my therapist, he suggested I write an article for the Ensign. At the time, I just wanted to get away from the church and everything in it. I can't imagine them ever publishing anything so negative, but I would love to be a part of educating people... if I ever get published, I'll let you jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14191688082941672114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2521256816974606164.post-47735163168792996552012-03-14T09:48:29.938-06:002012-03-14T09:48:29.938-06:00I've never thought of sharing my thoughts in s...I've never thought of sharing my thoughts in song, or with a psychological journal... maybe someday I will. <br />And yes, I didn't realize how much I needed the bishop's approval back then until I started writing. Over and over, I kept going back to hear that my life was okay... I was an adult, but still felt like a little child.jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14191688082941672114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2521256816974606164.post-5352930192803458342012-03-14T09:46:25.202-06:002012-03-14T09:46:25.202-06:00Thank you. And... please don't think that you ...Thank you. And... please don't think that you are "only a wife and mother". Your words mean a lot to me. I appreciate them.jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14191688082941672114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2521256816974606164.post-53503866429648867822012-03-14T07:04:18.518-06:002012-03-14T07:04:18.518-06:00*hug**hug*TGDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01787370282987477869noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2521256816974606164.post-25225314787399295982012-03-14T00:15:25.779-06:002012-03-14T00:15:25.779-06:00I hope you send it to the Ensign. It needs a dose...I hope you send it to the Ensign. It needs a dose of the reality of the counsel the bishops have been doling out for generations.Mungagungadinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18337240409001885142noreply@blogger.com