tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2521256816974606164.post793442316297824176..comments2024-02-21T23:33:41.359-07:00Comments on Only a little Sugar-Coated: I really appreciate that he asksjenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14191688082941672114noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2521256816974606164.post-58020761951115714222014-06-22T17:12:51.827-06:002014-06-22T17:12:51.827-06:00It's funny. I wouldn't dream of taking any...It's funny. I wouldn't dream of taking anything of Todd's without asking, and I wouldn't go anywhere without telling him first. (For the same reason - concern and safety.) But I feel like wanting the same level of care and respect is wanting too much... but I'm working on it.<br /><br />And - I love that Todd cares about me just cause I'm me and he likes me. That feels jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14191688082941672114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2521256816974606164.post-72995209899778396182014-06-22T17:10:55.609-06:002014-06-22T17:10:55.609-06:00I've noticed myself slipping backward lately -...I've noticed myself slipping backward lately - not a big thing, but... I'm more anxious and having trouble sleeping lately. I feel paralyzed by my own wants, and get stuck in ways that I used to work through easier. I'm realizing I am still struggling with boundaries. As the relationship with Todd has changed, it's woken up the feeling that I can't say no... and although he jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14191688082941672114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2521256816974606164.post-76100324591585550732014-06-21T09:19:56.232-06:002014-06-21T09:19:56.232-06:00I got a bit choked up reading this. I hadn't ...I got a bit choked up reading this. I hadn't realized just how much I had set aside my boundaries for others to walk all over my life. Learning to say 'no' was so difficult, I couldn't ever just say 'no', I had to follow it up with an excuse or justification because the people I said 'no' to would demand it. But it wouldn't matter anyway because they would TGDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01787370282987477869noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2521256816974606164.post-13727745943551128602014-06-21T09:08:16.761-06:002014-06-21T09:08:16.761-06:00I've been married for 36 years and I still ask...I've been married for 36 years and I still ask Ted if I can take his car. I also tell him where I am going and about how long I'll be. It isn't that he has in any way made me feel some sort of obligation to him, just that I know he would want to know out of concern. I know he would never take advantage of me just as Todd would never take advantage of you. It is good to have someoneMarilynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07225525158114828242noreply@blogger.com