Wednesday, August 4, 2010

let the rumors begin

I understand what the church says about homosexuality. I understand what the bible calls it. I understand that it is supposed to be evil according to God.

What I don't understand is how the government should have any say whatsoever.
What I don't understand is why the church thinks they have any right to define everyone else's rights.
What I don't understand is how if two people can get this whole love/sex/coupleness worked out, why the hell would anyone want to get in the way???
What I don't understand is why anyone would want to get married if they don't have to.

I don't think this decision will affect me... at all... it won't affect all of the people who believe they are losing their rights. It will only affect the people who have wanted to get married (WHY??) and give them a chance to do so. The people who have had the right to get married since marriage existed will still have all the rights...

All I know is if two people get it figured out, I WANT them to have every opportunity. I don't care who they are. I don't care how they got there. I don't care if it was biological, or caused by abuse, or a choice... If they can learn to love and be loved in return, I am very happy for them.

I know what I'm supposed to think, and still... I am glad.


  1. I have just found your blog. I'm impressed, I know you share some super personal stuff, and I love how you describe how you are working through your feelings and questions. I have a lot of the same questions you do, especially about who gets to dictate or control someone's personal rights. I like how you are discovering what you need to believe and you are not mad at how others believe or don't believe.

  2. Honestly, I think the real problem is that government is too involved in marriage in the first place.

    I don't have a problem with two people that want to form a union for tax purposes or any other purposes recognized by the government. I think that union should be allowed between two siblings, a heterosexual couple, a homosexual couple or two friends.

    The problem I have is that there have already been cases of religious institutions losing freedom of religion because they don't want to condone homosexuality. (Several catholic orphanages have been closed down because they didn't want to adopt to homosexual couples.)

    I think government should stay completely out of marriage, whether it be heterosexual or homosexual. If individuals want to get married as part of their religion they should be free to do so. If others want to form other government recognized unions they should also be free to do so.

    That's my opinion.

  3. Jeff - I'd agree. Government is too involved. One of the things I learned while reading about marriage (trying to figure out what I think about it) is that marriage was started (in Europe, post Christ) as a way for the government to control and keep track of people. The church (meaning the Catholic church) didn't get involved with marriage for several hundred years. And then it seemed to be for the same reasons: control of money and thus power.

    The government is not going to stay out of people's marriages any more than they are going to stay out of anything else... unfortunately. And unfortunately, people will discriminate and hurt those who are in the minority. Although I don't like government involvement, I wonder what would happen to minorities (GLBT, blacks, asians, women, etc.) without it.