The lesson in Relief Society was on charity. I was worried, because most people say stupid things when they try to talk about charity. The teacher was really nervous, but I could tell she was trying.
I listened and tried to really understand what charity is. Charity is the love of Christ. When we are filled with charity we feel the way Christ feels about people. We understand them. We love them completely. I have felt that feeling a few times in my life, and I loved it. It was amazing, and unfortunately it was fleeting.
Charity is seeing things and understanding things the way Christ would. Christ loves us. He KNOWS us, and completely understands us. He understands and has compassion for our faults and weaknesses, and he wants us to change them.
I think true charity, or pure love lifts up everyone involved. The moment I felt it for Paul... I was lifted up, I hope he was lifted up, and we both grew in a way that we couldn't have without that love. BJ has had amazing love for me, and that has made all the difference in the world. If he had only been trying to be my bishop, or just serve me without an open mind... Neither one of us would have been this blessed.
If everyone had charity, the world would be a better place, but how do I take care of me? If Christ is the ultimate example of charity... He let people mistreat him and eventually murder him. Is that charity? Is that how I should be?