Wednesday, March 25, 2009

Interdependence vs. Codependence

Talking to Paul today, we talked about codependent relationships. I had very strong feelings as he was talking.

Codependence means I can't live without you.
Interdependence means I love you, I don't want to be without you, but I know my true strength is not in you, but in Him.
Codependence means I have to do this or that for you.
Interdependence means I choose to do things for you, and I know that if I don't help you - you will take care of yourself, or the Lord will provide for you.
Codependence means I won't take care of myself, or I won't let you serve me.
Interdependence means I take care of myself, and I let you serve me.
Codependence is unhealthy.
Interdependence is healthy. It feels right.
Codependence makes me feel weak.
Interdependence makes me stronger than I would be alone.

1 comment:

  1. I think that's an important distinction. Many couples achieve codependence and mistakenly label it interdependence. I think it's important to understand the difference so we can build interdependent relationships.