Saturday, March 28, 2009

You look good - have you lost weight?

Its funny how in this society, "Have you lost weight?" is the best compliment we can give.

Even when I first got back from CFC, people said, "Wow. You look really good. You must have lost weight." I didn't have the heart to tell them, "Well, actually, I have gained quite a bit of weight, but I really needed to..."

The good news from where I'm sitting is that when a co-worker said it yesterday, I didn't take it as a compliment or as a put-down. When I answered her question with a very honest, "I don't think so, but I really don't know," she continued with, "You are just so little!"

My answer, "Yes. I am."

I am very small. I don't see that as a good thing... or as a bad thing... I just am.
She thought it was a good thing. She then went on about how she was gaining weight, blah, blah, blah.

Why do we as a society give more worth to small people than to large people? I have a body that is smaller... I don't see that as a blessing. I don't think I am soooo lucky.

I'm just me.

I love me! And if in the future, my body changes and I'm not so little. I will love me then too.


  1. I'm definitely not little. I don't think much about it. I'm just who I am. Occasionally someone says something cruel about overweight people, and it is in those moments that I remember that our society looks down on bigger people. I usually ponder how fascinating that is and then I move on with my life.

    I do want to lose weight, but not because I strive to be a small person so that I can have more value. I just remember when I was doing Body For Life, I wrote in my little journal that I wanted to run and not be weary, and walk and not faint. For you, gaining weight had the same result as losing weight does for me, that it gives you a chance to run and not be weary and walk and not faint.

    I'm glad we both recognize that people have value no matter how big they are or what they look like.

  2. This made me smile Jenn. You make me happy :)